Even the strongest relationship can suffer difficulties. Let us help you work through the tough times.
Maintaining a happy intimate relationship is difficult and something that many of us struggle with. Jealousy, extramarital affairs, money worries, sexual issues and communication problems can all place a huge strain on relationships. Sometimes it becomes hard to remember the happiness of the honeymoon period when “real life” seeps in. Opening up to friends can exacerbate the negativity if one side of the couple is seen to be talking about the other behind their back or people are perceived to be “taking sides”. Harley Therapy Clinic offers face to face as well as online couples counselling.
Couples therapy or marriage counselling focuses on relationship issues and teaching couples to resolve their difficulties together. A couple’s therapist will not tell a couple what to do – rather they offer relationship counselling and will work with them to achieve a solution to relationship turmoil. Couples are encouraged to find the best possible outcome to their issues, even if that means an amicable split or divorce.
Counselling is a form of talking therapy, encompassing a range of methods. Counselling can offer you new ways of looking at your problems and thus open the door for you to find more effective ways of coping with them. A counsellor will not judge you and all counselling sessions are completely confidential.
Key counselling methods offered at Harley Street Clinic include:
A couples therapist offers emotionally focused therapy to both parties in a relationship. They will ask questions about how your relationship got to its current point, discussing how things were in the past and which factors might have negatively affected the relationship. The relationship counsellor will then assist you in finding ways to escape the negative models of communication and/or behaviour you have fallen into.
It can be difficult to admit you have got to the point where it is necessary to consult a couples therapist to help you with your relationship problems. It is also fairly common for one partner to be more enthusiastic about the idea than the other, meaning that even before you have sat down in the therapist’s chair you may have to address either your own or your partner’s doubts about therapy. Couples can choose a more methodical approach to their issues, using therapy such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or a less rigidly structured talking therapy such as Psychodynamic Therapy.
If during the therapy sessions both partners are committed to analysing their relationship without resorting to blaming or gratuitous nastiness, then counselling for couples can show results early on. It can be more difficult to judge how long a course of counselling will take when there are two parties involved, as there is the potential for differing levels of commitment from each partner.
It’s preferred to attend couples counselling sessions together as this allows for a more constructive environment for both of you. We do however offer one-on-one sessions with respective spouses in conjunction with longer-term couples therapy.
We are able to offer this service online via Skype.
Couples counselling is most effective when couples act quickly and decide to seek help before things become damaged beyond repair or the prospect of a friendly separation becomes unlikely. Even if your relationship woes only extend to bickering over household tasks, if it is affecting your relationship then it is never too soon to take steps to sort it out. The addition of an impartial intermediary and fresh pair of eyes in the form of a couples counsellor can be invaluable in lifting a couple out of a claustrophobic battle with one another.
Whilst there is a huge amount of overlap, the key difference is that counselling focuses mainly on talking through problems, whereas psychotherapy tends towards employing specific techniques designed to help you change your behaviour patterns as well as come to terms with negative influences in your life. That is not to say that a counsellor will not provide coping strategies – rather that there is slightly more focus on doing this in a systematic way when you see a psychotherapist. Neither method is better than the other. It is a matter of personal preference and needs.
Most people require at least six weekly sessions of counselling to see any kind of improvement. Many require a lot more. It depends on the nature of the issues which you are facing. Developing a strong working relationship with your counsellor is important. Counsellors typically provide short and medium-term support, after which time you may be referred to a psychotherapist in order to conduct longer term, more scientifically based work.
Harley Street Clinic therapy practitioners provide high-quality private counselling and psychotherapy services, carefully tailored to fit clients’ needs. Our counsellors provide an invaluable therapeutic relationship and listening service first and foremost, giving you the chance to get things off your chest without judgement or the risk of your problems being shared with anyone you do not wish them to be shared with. Counselling is shown to be very effective for most people, providing they are determined to see a change in their lives and believe they can be helped.
We offer an online counselling and therapy service using Skype and Facetime. Find more information about online skype therapy
For more information call 0203 488 3901 or email us. To book a counselling appointment in London with a Harley Therapy Counsellor, please fill in the online booking form.
If you are looking for relationship counseeling please visit our couples and marriage therapy pages